In Memoriam: Mary O’Hara, January 24, 1926-February 17, 2015
Family members and friends gathered at St. Irenaeus Church in Cypress over two days to celebrate the life of Cypress resident Mary O’Hara, a St. Irenaeus parishioner since 1965 and an active member of the Cypress community.
Mary was born on Jan. 24, 1926 in Los Angeles as the eldest child of the late Jose and Herminia Soto. She entered into Eternal Life on Feb. 17, 2015 at the age of 89 years at her home in Cypress.
A Rosary and Vigil service was held on Tuesday, Feb. 24, 2015 at 7 p.m. and a solemn Mass in celebration of her life was concelebrated the next day by Fr. Daniel Reader, Parochial Vicar at St. Irenaeus, and Fr. Pat Rudolph, Pastor of St. Norbert’s Church in Orange. Fr. Rudolph was previously a Pastor at St. Irenaeus Church and knew Mary well.
St. Irenaeus’ current Pastor, Fr. Patrick Moses, was unable to be present for Mary’s Celebration of Life because he was serving as Chaplain on a Fundraising Cruise for Mary’s Catholic Charities Auxiliary Chapter II.
According to St. Irenaeus Administrative Secretary Kathy Loch, Fr. Moses was also praying the Rosary on board the ship on Feb. 24 and celebrating Mass in honor of Mary on Feb. 25 as Rosary and Mass were occurring at St. Irenaeus.
Catholic Charities Auxiliary Chapter II members joined him in praying for Mary.
After funeral Mass for Mary O’Hara at St. Irenaeus: Fr. Pat Rudolph, Fr. Daniel Reader, and George O’Hara. Courtesy photo.
A heart of charity
At the Celebration of Life Mass for Mary O’Hara, Fr. Daniel described Mary as having a “Heart of Charity” who did God’s work in her family, her church and in her community.
He said that she was an ideal wife and woman as described in the Bible in Proverbs 31:10-31, and was always positive, hardworking and inspirational.
Fr. Daniel called Mary a “Church Woman” and a “Prayer Warrior” who knew that she was blessed by God and was always giving back to God by feeding the hungry, clothing the naked and comforting the afflicted. She was an instrument in God’s hands and believed in the promises of Christ.
Strengthened by receiving the Eucharist and praying the Rosary often, she never complained of her many ailments and being bedridden since 2009. Mary called people on the phone and even prayed for others who were homebound as a “Prayer Sister.”
Fr. Daniel said that that he was impressed with Mary’s religious spirit even when her body was failing physically. She lived her life loving God and also loving her neighbors, whether they were friends or strangers.
He said that she was at peace and ready to meet the Lord when he anointed her earlier in February.
Vigil service
At the Vigil Service that was held on the previous night, there was a beautiful procession where Mary’s family carried 30 lighted candles as they followed the priests and Mary’s casket into the church.
St. Irenaeus Funeral Ministers Betty Borowski and Rosemary Schneider led the family and friends in praying readings from the Bible, in praying five decades chosen from the Joyful, Sorrowful, Luminous and Glorious Mysteries of the Rosary and relating each mystery to Mary’s life.
Mary was devoted to praying the rosary as a Legion of Mary Auxiliary member. Knowing how Mary loved to pray the Rosary, Mary’s children, grandchildren and parishioners who had brought the Holy Eucharist to her over the years, took turns leading the prayers before each decade of the Rosary.
A life well-lived
According to the family’s eulogy of Mary, read by Betty Borowski at the vigil, Mary was named Maria Ofelia Soto at birth and later was known as Mary Ophelia.
Mary was well educated and graduated from Los Angeles Catholic Girls High School in 1944 and received her Bachelor’s Degree in Economics from Immaculate Heart College in Hollywood in 1948. She became Executive Secretary at Dames and Moore, a Civil Engineering firm.
She later met and married the late Jim O’Hara in 1957 and became Mary O’Hara.
Jim and Mary were married for 47 years and lived in the city of Cypress for 39 of those years. During those years, they were blessed with six children, three boys and three girls whom they raised in the Catholic Faith and sent to Catholic schools. All six children attended St. Irenaeus School and later either Servite High School or Cornelia Connelly High School.
After Jim and Mary moved to Cypress in 1965, Jim successfully built Farmers Insurance District 76 in Lakewood. Jim was District Manager and Mary helped with District events.
Jim and Mary became owners of Cypress Travel in 1974 and enjoyed traveling all over the world. Mary said she especially enjoyed going to their time-share on Kona, Hawaii, every year until it was sold.
While the children were in elementary and high school, Mary worked hard as a homemaker and as a volunteer in the schools doing playground duties and helping with fundraisers. She used her artistic talent to design cookbook covers and Christmas ornaments.
After the children graduated from high school, Mary became increasingly involved with religious and civic organization in the Cypress area, including St. Irenaeus Parish Council, the Soroptimists, Cypress Woman’s Club, Catholic Charities Auxiliary, and the Knights and Ladies of the Holy Sepulcher which she joined with Jim. After Jim passed away in 2004, she continued to volunteer to help raise funds for Catholic Charities.
Charitable work continued until her passing
Although Mary became bedridden in 2009, she continued to work on planning for fundraisers for Catholic Charities and served as Director or Co-Director of Catholic Charities Auxiliary Chapter II for many years.
From her bedside, she would make calls to people asking for donations or asking for help to do things for her.
At the time of her passing, her son George said that she was overseeing the preparation of baskets for the Silent Auction for Presentation Sisters Annual Retirement Benefit on March 21, 2015 at Meadowlark Golf Club.
She worked hard each year to gather items for the Silent Auction baskets that would raise funds for the Presentation Sisters Retirement Fund and prayed for successful results.
At Mary’s Rosary and Vigil, Sr. Angela Callanan thanked Mary O’Hara and the O’Hara family for helping to raise funds for the Presentation Sisters Retirement Fund for so many years. She said that the Sisters appreciated all her work and her prayers and miss her greatly.
Survivors
Mary O’Hara is survived by her six children and their spouses, including George (Martha) O’Hara of Cypress; Elizabeth (Bill) Veon of San Juan Capistrano; Monica (Sean) Toohey of Orange; Jim Jr. (Ashley) O’Hara of Encinitas; Andrea (Barry) Donegan of Huntington Beach: and Stephen (Kathleen) O’Hara of Los Gatos.
She is also survived by twenty grandchildren, her sisters Emma Hermes of Cypress and Elena Kunz of Temple City, brothers-in-law, sisters-in-law, and nieces and nephews. Her husband Jim and her brother George Soto of Sun Valley, CA., preceded her in death.
Because of Mary O’Hara’s charitable effort to financially support the Presentation Sisters Retirement Fund, the family of Mary O’Hara humbly requests that if people would like to participate in supporting this cause, in lieu of flowers, donations be made to the Presentation Sisters Retirement Fund c/o St. Irenaeus Church at 5201 Evergreen Avenue, Cypress, CA 90630.
The article above was submitted by Edna Ethington.
Featured photo
Mary O’Hara in 1995. Photo courtesy of her son, George O’Hara.